Hi friends, I want to take out this time to give you five tools with which you can apply to your relationships and find if you really are in love and if you are going to last in that relationship. This may also work the other way round. You may use this to find out if you are actually loved or you're just a pushover, but whatever the case may be, take these five tools, apply them to your relationships and be the judge of yourself if you are in love or out of love for your spouse.
THE GIVING TEST OR TEST OF SACRIFICE
Love gives, even
fake love. When you are with a person that you love, ask yourself this question
“Am I willing to sacrifice for the sake of this person?” Whatever you cannot
sacrifice for the one you love shows you are not really in love with that
person.
THE QUARREL TEST OR FORGIVINESS TEST
Quarrel and
misunderstandings are sometimes part of relationships. Relationships have a way
of releasing the bad aspect of you. Some people think they are perfect until
they meet someone who begins to bring out their mistakes and faults. Most of
these bad aspects may bring quarrel or misunderstanding in relationships.
Another aspect is when they default in the relationship, may be they broke your
trust, they cheated on you. Ask yourself “How much am I willing to forgive or take
this from this person, because love covers multitude of sins (Prov. 10:12, 1Pet.
4:8).
ADMIRATION TEST
Ask yourself, “Am I ashamed of the
one I love outside, am proud to introduce them to my friends, colleagues and
family members?”
THE CRISIS TEST OR THE FIRE TEST
When you go through
problems do you still stand with the one you love? There are occasion where
people have left their spouse because of problems, may be financial, spiritual,
health, material or economical problems. Age will test your love at this stage.
HABIT TEST OR NAKEDNESS TEST
Ask yourself, “How much
time do you spend to know how your spouse behaves? How much am I willing to
open myself in trust? Do I need to hide some things from my spouse or should I
tell everything? Am I lying about anything that can break their heart? Is
there anything in my past that I am ashamed of relating to them? Can I be able
to cover their nakedness and keep their deepest secretes? All these are the
questions you ask yourself at this stage.
Friends, test yourself with these 5tools before you
make that engagement, but in all, your peace of heart should lead you to whom
you decide to share your heart with.
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